tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13399254.post2090884257354539272..comments2024-02-14T11:04:27.663-05:00Comments on Free and Responsible Search: Men and #MeTooDoug Muderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04666144843949850394noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13399254.post-12313349140158143192020-10-15T23:44:23.216-04:002020-10-15T23:44:23.216-04:00Interesting topic. Thanks. I have been told by wom...Interesting topic. Thanks. I have been told by women that I am too nice. I have been told by woman that they want a rough diamond. My experience of observation is that the pushy aggressive men have more success with girls. Maybe some women are also victims of what a stereotypical man is that they should mate with?<br /><br />On the "success" of the pushy aggressive men: Are say 10% of pushy aggressive men responsible for the abuse that 50% of women have experienced? that would after all be only 5 each for them which is a modest estimation? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13399254.post-48687361881952466152019-07-09T18:44:35.819-04:002019-07-09T18:44:35.819-04:00Sex is a funny thing. It is not an intellectual ex...Sex is a funny thing. It is not an intellectual exercize. It is a physical action that takes place in our reptile brain. It's been that way for thousands of years. We do not decide, in most cases, who we are attracted to. It's a mysterious process. <br /><br />Part of the mysterious process of sex has always involved male aggression. Without male aggression, most people would not be in a relationship with their spouse. The term is "seduction". Seduction is the sales pitch that a male person puts on to convince a female person to get naked and have some sweaty fun. The issue is that the male person has to be sure that the female person is going along. And that generally, for thousands of years, has meant that you try something, and see what happens. Does she flee from you little attempt at getting to 2nd base? Or not? If not, you shoot for 3rd base. <br /><br />All of those wrestling games, teasing games, are all part of seduction. There is a huge difference between Weinstein-level behavior and seduction. There is a difference between Cosby and seduction. Rape, which involves force, is not seduction. As Justice said, "I know it when I see it". <br /><br />Today, the rules have changed, and the change is not for the better. We have incels who are mostly kids like my son, who is clueless about women. He hasn't shot up the bar, but he is totally paranoid about any sort of action with women. We have a reduced number of pairing-up. We have reduced marriages. In some countries, like Japan, there are large numbers of men and women who have no idea what to do. Is this an improvement? No.<br /><br />It's safetyism, to use the terms from Coddling of the American Mind. Women have decided that they will not open themselves up in any sense to the vulnerability for a sexual relationship. If you are going to have a sexual relationship, you need to go from not being naked with a guy to being naked, and that's a big jump which requires that the woman take a chance. Today, the culture of "safetyism" is that we must be 100% sure of every situation. That means that in 20 years, a lot of women will be having a long-term relationship with cats, and a lot of guys will have a deep personal relationship with pornhub. POed Former-Libhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04515300327544898083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13399254.post-12454598590987111022019-03-06T23:09:43.019-05:002019-03-06T23:09:43.019-05:00Brilliant. I've had the same inarticulate reac...Brilliant. I've had the same inarticulate reaction to #MeToo that I did stuff as a boy and younger man that didn't cross the 'red line' but that reflected that idea that sexual conquest was a game where the guy was rewarded for aggression in the face of resistance. My crimes were minor - but as I look back on them, they were crimes of aggression all the same. I wouldn't do that now - but I did it then. I don't know how it might happen, but for men to acknowledge, as publicly as women have acknowledged the 'iffy' or 'grey area' or 'it was confusing' times they were sexually assaulted, would be a giant step towards a new social standard of sexual conduct.John Magounnoreply@blogger.com